24-year-old calls out entitled roommate for letting her unemployed sister move in without clearing it with her: 'Now you expect me to pay her rent too? Absolutely not!'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Jul 14, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

Drawing boundaries with roommates is always more difficult than it seems. If you're a people pleaser like I am, you probably know what I'm talking about. Perhaps your roommate is overstepping or asking too much of you. Perhaps you want to say something and stand up for yourself, but you are also conflict-averse and have no desire to ruffle any feathers. Still, these confrontations are inevitable unless you plan to let people walk all over you for the rest of your life. That may sound overdramatic, but the truth of the matter is that once you let one person treat you that way, before you know it, this dynamic can become an unfortunate and irreparable pattern.

For this 24-year-old, she found herself in a situation where her roommate thought her jobless sister could move in without her expressed permission. Initially, it was supposed to last only a few days, but it gradually extended into weeks and beyond. When the author clocked that the sister wasn't exactly applying herself so she could get out of there and find her own place, she realized that she was going to have to be the one to put a stop to this breach of a personal boundary. Keep scrolling below to find out what transpired when the author insisted that the sister start paying rent!

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  • There will always be people who sympathize with the sister's situation and with the roommate, who seemingly is trying to protect her family. However, when that protection involves the sister using the author's fair share of food and resources, something has to change. It shouldn't also be the author's responsibility to provide for this fully grown adult!

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    "My roommate expects me to pay her sister’s share of the rent because I have a job."

    I live with one roommate Rose, I traveled for a family get-together. When I came back, I found someone else in the apartment turns out it was Rose's younger sister.
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    I asked her what was going on, and she casually said, "Oh, she just came from the village and will be staying here for a few days while she applies for a job." |
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    asked her why she didn't let me know beforehand, and she said, "I thought you wouldn't mind." Fast forward: those "few days" turned into what feels like forever. Her sister is always home
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    doing absolutely nothing. No job hunting, no house chores, just using up our space, electricity, water, and food. She is basically moved in.
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    When rent was due, I divided it into three and sent my one-third. Rose called me saying I didn't send my full rent. I told her to divide the total into three, and that is my part.
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    She flipped. Said her sister isn't working yet and I've been working for years, so I should be able to afford the full half. That I should "overlook it" and "render a little help."
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    I told her point blank: You didn't ask me before bringing your sister in, and now you expect me to pay her rent too? Absolutely not. She called me wicked and stormed off.
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    Xpialidocious 17h ago . Might want to lock up your food also.
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    Right_Cucumber... . 17h ago Tell landlord about the sister moving in without your approval. They'll kick her out.
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    United-Manner20 17h ago • She invited her to stay there without your permission so she volunteers to pay any increase in bills because of that.
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    Successful_Voice... 17h ago Seems reasonable that if three people are sharing an apartment, each should pay one-third. If her sister is not in a financial position to pay
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    her fair share, since Rose invited her sister then Rose can pay her portion as well as her own. If she cannot afford it, she needs to tell her sister to move out.
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    emaandee96 • 17h ago You're not wrong here. Your roommate thought she could use you.
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    . CherryCoveny OP 17h ago Since she is kind enough and as the sister she can pay up the two third of the rent.
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    springvelvet95 • 17h ago I'd be careful of language that implies the sister is a 3rd tenant. It may sound like you are offering tenancy, (by requiring rent), which would
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    give her tenant rights and no way do you want that to happen. I'm not sure what I would do here. You don't want to stay with this roommate, so I would suggest having the sister sign the lease, releasing you (hopefully) and get out of dodge.
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    WistfulDread • 17h ago . Check local tenancy laws. Your lease as well. That sister staying longer than a week alone could cause serious issues. There is a chance that her being there so long may constitute a lease violation.
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    Be prepared to look for a new place. You don't want to roommate with them, and they may be dumb enough to get caught soon.
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